Charles Cooper, who argued in favor of Proposition 8 at the Supreme Court, now says he is “evolving” on marriage equality after learning his daughter is a lesbian.
I continue to loathe the narrative of “my empathy for human beings only extends as far as immediate circle of awareness” being held up as some sort of “YAY PROGRESS” high-five-athon.
Fuck this guy for needing a gay daughter to “evolve” to the idea that gay people deserve equal rights. I understand that that is the reality. I just also name that reality as shitty.
I’m just happy that thanks to the visibility and strength of our pro-gay, pro-diversity, pro-tolerance movements that his daughter felt empowered enough to speak truth to him instead of killing herself. For example.
Well there is that. But the ‘why are we giving assholes cookies for exhibiting basic human decency one they find out that the population they’ve historically been assholes to includes someone they love’ point stands.
this also scares me because this is all about the parent, and this sounds a little too close to the idea that if you give homophobic people queer kids, then everything is fine. And well who knows what his politics are still like, and ok, sure, I’m glad that this potentially worked out okay for her (who knows what really happened, and how much hurt there was to get to this point)
but people aren’t fucking lessons. I don’t care what the fuck you learn, not at the expense of your fucking children, hell no, I was one of those kids and yes, I take this stuff personally.
Many people tell me that everything should be great now because my parents opinions “evolved”, but really? They still have shitty opinions, they still put me through shit, and they still made things difficult for other people.
I don’t consider these “success” stories at all
this is not progressive and we should not have to accept crumbs for representation