"Don’t be defined by your condition" often seems to mean "pretend your condition doesn’t shape your life or else".
"Don’t let [traumatic life-altering event that causes long-term emotional, mental, and physical health problems] define you" often seems to mean "stop talking about [traumatic life-altering event] and pretend it never happened and doesn’t shape your life or else".
This is an important point.
remember when teen titans had that really powerful arc about rejecting abusive family and that surrounding yourself with good people who make you happy is the most important thing and no one should force you to do anything you don’t want to do and sometimes friends are better family than the people who you’re actually related to
WHAT THE FUCK. THIS IS SO MESSED UP. WHEN WILL PEOPLE.OPEN THEIR EYES TO SEE WHAT THESE PEOPLE ARE DOING.
Whether this is real or not, it’s terrifying that they’re even offering to do this.